Just Underway

You know I get a lot of grief from other navy wives... they all say "we all go through it" ... I don't think I'd ever say that to a new navy wife that has not gone through it yet. Those words are probably the worst to hear. My husband had gone through 2 months of boot camp... 4 months of A school and two stints of 1.5 months of underway including a call to Haiti in January. But you know what, it will never get any easier for me, I have lost people I love in my life, I have had people that I could not count on but my husband not being here at the end of the day is something I am not willing to accept. Its hard. There are women out there that say "walk a day in my shoes" but you know what; walk a day in mine. You can never compare your life and experiences to anyone else, we are all different and have been through different experiences and learned different ways; dont get me wrong, I am a strong woman but this is probably the hardest thing I have hard to face; an eight month deployment in the next couple months, and I sit here by myself with our beautiful son that says "dada" when he comes down the stairs in the morning. How do I explain to a 22 month old why dada isnt here? I cant even find a single person that will go to an amusement park with me for free. I won tickets and no one will go with me. I've been here in Va Beach a year and I still have no one. I want to go home or I want my husband home. The navy has given me and my son so much, but also taken more from my husband, and I am sure there are people out there, military or not, that have it worse than me, and that sux, but you know what... Im having a hard time and I wish I had a real friend, someone to understand, support me. I don't know how to deal with this one...

Being a "dependant" :military life as a spouse

So I wanted to discuss one of the largest aspects of my life; the military. No, I am not in the military, my husband is. Let me give you a highlight, and many of you out there will know exactly what I am talking about.

1. moved thousands of miles from any form of family
2. forced to make an attempt at new friends; many of which can be more drama than high school
3. strange hours that change constantly because "the command" has a reason
4. can't find a job because in a military community many employers are not willing to put up with the demands of "bring me this", "I need you to take a day off", "I can't take the kid to the doctors appointment" (all from our "sponsors")
5. frequent deployments, some with no notice
6. terrible military funded facilities that our there for "us"
7. being called a "dependant" , I do not depend on any one!
8. Duty days...
9. high divorce rates/stress

Anything you can think of and give you opinion, let me know, because of right now, my schedule revolves around the wonderful Navy that protects us... but also hinders so many. Give your side, your story, let me know. I especially would love to hear the opinions of the good and bad.

My Intro

My name is Cyndi; I currently live in Virginia Beach where I live with my husband whom is in the Navy as an IT. We have a 2 year old son, a 2 year old dog named Baxter, a 2 year old cat named Shadow Monster and have been here about a year. We are originally from Arkansas where we call home. Though I am finishing up my associates degree in Psychology, I can NOT find a job for the life of me that is full time and can pay for day care... I will go on to get my bachelors in secondary education and will be a high school teacher. I am very good at the subject I love; Psychology but unfortunately can't do anything with it till a masters degree. All in all, I am here to discuss things a bit too deep for the world of social networking, I am great at advice and trivia. So please ask away and help me build my blog so I can have a following that cares about the world and troubles that come with the life lessons learned.